Pain and despair are not options in life.  Even with the love of the Father, the sacrifice of Jesus and the presence of the Holy Spirit we can struggle with pain and even fall  into despair.  But remember "truth and love" always win!

“When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it—always.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

From Griffin, Misty. Tears of the Silenced: A True Crime and an American Tragedy; Severe Child Abuse and Leaving the Amish (p. 4). Misty Griffin. Kindle Edition.